Author: Stephen Gardiner

Childhood Trauma Is Not Always Violent

Childhood trauma is not always violent.  “It wasn’t what happened.  Sometimes it is what didn’t happen that hurt.” When we think of childhood trauma, we often picture violence, abuse, or chaos. But for many adults, the real damage came from

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Why Trauma Survivors Hate Stillness

Let’s get one thing straight—stillness is not the same as safety. If you’ve lived through trauma—especially childhood trauma, domestic violence, or long-term stress—then you’ll know that being “still” often wasn’t a peaceful experience. It was the moment before the yelling

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Elementor #2854

You’re Not Broken — You’re Just Out of Balance How Long-Term Stress Destroys Identity Chronic stress is a silent identity thief. It doesn’t just mess with your sleep, your patience, or your gut health. It slowly dismantles your sense of

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The Trauma of a Good Enough Childhood   You had a roof over your head, but you still feel broken. Here’s why. If you’ve ever wondered why life feels heavier than it should… if you’re exhausted by anxiety, self-doubt, or

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Anger Isn’t the Problem – It’s the Alarm Bell

We’re told to “calm down,” “manage our anger,” or worse, to just suppress it. But here’s the truth most people miss: anger isn’t the real problem—it’s the alarm bell. In trauma therapy and emotional healing, anger often shows up as

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“3 Sessions and Your Trauma’s Resolved?”

“3 Sessions and Your Trauma’s Resolved?” – Sounds Like a Joke, Right? Most people actually laugh when I say PTSD, long-term anxiety and/or childhood trauma can be resolved in just three sessions. I get it. It sounds completely unrealistic.   

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Bullying kills self-worth, self-esteem and leads to more bullying
Trauma Therapy

Effects of PTSD on Families

The Emotional Effects of PTSD on Families PTSD doesn’t just impact the person living with it — it ripples out, affecting everyone around them. Families often find themselves walking on eggshells, unsure how to help or when to back off.

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New Life, New Me - I am safe. The past is over, behind me.
Anxiety and suicide

Trauma Therapy Is Not Reliving the Past

Many people avoid trauma therapy because they think it means digging up painful memories over and over. It doesn’t. Trauma therapy is not about reliving the past!  Real trauma therapy shouldn’t re-traumatise you—it should free you. At Transformations Trauma Therapy, we use

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Trauma Therapy

You’re Not Broken You’re Stuck!

Have you been carrying the weight of trauma, anxiety, or depression for years?  That means years of carrying emotional baggage that you have stuffed all those horrible events deep inside your mind, hoping to never think of them again. It

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Decisions are choices. You are always free to choose. If it doesn't work out - You are free to choose again.
Trauma Therapy

Free to Choose

Am I free to choose? Who do you become when you do not get your way?  How do you react when faced with a challenge, an obstacle, or a delay?  Are you in control of your emotions and free to

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